With the current pandemic that we shall not name, so many couples have had to re-imagine what their dream day might look like. With lower guest numbers as a huge consideration, an intimate wedding can be the perfect fit. Imagine you, the love of your life, and an intimate group of the people you love most celebrating into the night. While it might not be exactly what you had envisioned 10 months ago, we are here to share with you all the reasons we love intimate weddings. We think you should too!
1. It takes the pressure off your guest list
Ahh the wedding guest list. Even though this is you and your partner’s special day it seems that everyone feels they deserve a say in who you should invite. You had planned on a guest list of 150, but then your parents chime in requesting an invite for 40 of their friends. Emphasis on the ‘their’. Or pressure to invite those distant relatives you haven’t seen since you were five, but ‘you can’t not invite them!’. It can be hard having these conversations with your loved ones and trying to rationalise why you don’t want to extend invites to everyone. The cost alone is a huge factor but mostly you want everyone attending your wedding to be important people to you. Having an intimate wedding makes it simple. If you have settled on smaller guest numbers it makes it much easier to draw the line and prevent the domino effect!
2. A smaller wedding can mean a smaller budget!
Remember those 80 guests we just scratched? Such a large amount of the money spent on a wedding is allocated from catering and drinks. So that is a whole lot of money saved not paying per head! Having an intimate wedding is the perfect way to have your dream day, but save some of that well-earned cash to put towards a house deposit, epic honeymoon, or just for a rainy day!
3. Splurge on those elements important to you
On the other side of the scale, if there is another part of your wedding you want to make a top priority, you can re-allocate some (or all!) of the money saved with fewer guests to create your dream vision. Say you want the venue dripping with blooms or you want to splash out on customised decor, this is a sure way to help you achieve that. Where you sacrifice on guest numbers you can splurge on something extra special to make your day unforgettable.
4. Your choice of venue just blew wide open!
When shopping around for your perfect venue a major factor is ensuring they can cater for your guest numbers. No one likes a tight space where you need to compete for a chair to rest your dancing feet. Or if a large dance floor is super important to you, but you find out you need to compromise on that to make sure everyone has a seat for your alternating main menu. Having an intimate wedding opens you up to not only the beautiful standard sized venues but also the charming restaurants, beautifully styled gallery spaces and so much more. If you have a specific style or are after something different this really is such a wonderful way for you to pick a more unique venue space.
5. Enjoying more quality time with your guests
The classic post-wedding line of ‘the day just flew by!’. So many couples find that they spend their wedding day on fast forward. Have they gotten a photo with everyone? Did they make sure to say hello and thank each person individually for coming? Amongst all this chaos it can be easy to forget to take in those little moments not only with your guests, but with each other as well. Did you even get a chance to try your wedding cake? A more intimate wedding doesn’t have you split in half and competing against the clock to say hello to everyone, and missing the amazing day you spent so long planning. You have more quality time to spend with your select special guests and to really enjoy your day.
6. Its a more sustainable choice
Having a smaller wedding is an amazing way to reduce your wedding’s carbon footprint. To start with, having smaller guest numbers means that there is less energy, food, and water used. Fewer guest tables also result in needing less decor and flower arrangements, which can so often turn to wastage post-wedding. So you are using a lot fewer resources with this intimate group and having far less wastage! Not to mention that smaller guest numbers can also result in fewer guests that may have needed to travel to be there for your special day.
7. It creates a relaxed and romantic atmosphere
Traditionally large weddings were always the ‘done thing’, but hand-selecting the special people to attend your wedding starts things off specifically your way. Every single person attending your wedding knows you and your partner well enough to have scored a VIP invite! It paves the way for creating a comfortable, relaxed, and romantic atmosphere where you can both feel you are being truly and utterly yourselves with the people who know you best.
8. Perfect for the couple who get nervous with all eyes on them
If the idea of walking down the aisle with 180 eyes on you is something that spikes your anxiety, having an intimate wedding may be a great choice for you. For the couple who aren’t huge on large crowds, ensuring that the people surrounding you are only the extra special people in your life is a great way to calm any nerves. After all, everyone in that room with you knows you and your partner so well, speeches feel more like a chat with your friends rather than an announcement to a room full of people.
9. Get creative with your menu
Having a large wedding, your menu selections can cause a bit of stress! With such a huge group of people, you always want to make sure there is something that caterers for everyone. But what about what you want!? A smaller group of people generally means fewer variables when it comes to dietaries and preferences. So get creative with your catering and think outside the box! Food trucks are such a fun idea for intimate weddings because without the large crowds, the wait times are much lower and it all flows so seamlessly. Plus if you can’t decide on a cuisine why not have two food trucks!
10. It’s your day!
At the end of the day, your wedding is all about you two. Having an intimate wedding really allows you to focus on what is important, each other! Being able to share more special and intimate moments with the love of your life. When planning a wedding you can sometimes get swept up and feel more concerned about everyone else involved. If they are enjoying the food, drinks, and music. Strip that all back, and you realise that you just got to marry the love of your life, your person. Enjoy the special moments together.
Having an intimate wedding can bring all of your wedding dreams into reality. Not to mention with the current pandemic you aren’t left stressing hoping you and 180 of your loved ones will be able to be in a room together by your big day. Re-imagining your big day can be hard, but just a small shift in guest numbers can be the one thing that opens up so many amazing opportunities that may not have felt like a reality. So round up your favourite people and get celebrating that you found the love of your life!
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Nudo is a dynamic team of planners and designers (and shoulders to lean on), effortlessly guiding you through your wedding journey step by step. Taking the time to understand your vision and what matters most, whilst also taking care of the million small (and sometimes tedious) details that you don’t have the time for. And when the day comes, we bring it all together to create the kind of experience your guests will rave about for years.
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